Monday, May 12, 2014

Exactly what they need!

It is VERY rare that I ever want to go to a movie theater to see a movie, but there is a movie out called, 'Moms Night Out' that I was interested in seeing.

My husband being the wonderful man that he is took me to see that movie on Saturday night! Luckily, we weren't seeing a movie that he picked out because he fell asleep during the first preview!!! 

Oh well.......

This movie really spoke to my heart. If you have not seen it, I HIGHLY recommend it!

I have a question for you........
How many days a week do you feel like you are failing as a mother?

Personally, I have moments each and everyday where I question myself and my abilities to do this whole ":mom" thing. I constantly question if what I am doing is right. 

Why wont he listen to me?
Are my kids going to grow up hating me? 
Are they going to be smart enough?
Can I really give this many kids everything that they need?
Do they know how much I love them?
Are they going to love God?
Can I really teach them how to survive in this screwed up world that we live in?

Every night as I lay in bed something that happened throughout the day will come to my head. 
I will think to myself.......
I wish I would have handled that situation differently. I wish I would have played more with someone.
Should I have disciplined them differently? Why did I get mad over that?? Whatever it is, there is ALWAYS something that I question about myself.

As moms we also like to compare ourselves to other moms. 

She cooks better than me. 
She is more crafty than I am. 
She never yells at her kids. 
She is always wearing makeup and has perfect hair. 
She makes everything from scratch and doesn't feed her kids Burger king.

Whatever it is, I know that you have done it! You have compared your parenting ability to someone else. You have thought that you are screwing up your child. 
You have questioned your ability to be the good mom that your kids need.

Admit it........

Well, I want to tell you that you are the PERFECT parent for your child! 

God made all of us differently. He made all of our kids differently. What my kid needs, yours may not. Your strengths are just right for the children that He gave to YOU, not me. 

If He thought that I could do a better job then He would have given me your child, But He didn't. 
He gave them to you because you are the ONLY person who can give your child what they need. How you teach them and how you shape them is going to turn them into who they are going to be. The exact person that God created them to be. If God would have given me your child then that child wouldn't be who He wants them to be.

Your job as a mom is THE most important job in the world. You are not totally screwing up your kid! You are doing things right! You may not be the mom that your best friend is and that is ok!!!! You are exactly who you need to be for your kid and that is what matters! No one else can give them what they need.

When that child looks up at you and says I love you, mom, know with your whole heart that you ARE doing something right!!! You are EXACTLY what that sweet little face needs :) 

The movie touched on that and really made me think.
  By the end I had tears in my eyes as I thought about my own wonderful children and how being their mom really is the best thing in the world. 
There is nothing in this world I love more than being a mom and I know that even on my bad days, I wouldn't trade it for anything!!! 

From here on out I am going to stop thinking that I am not good enough! If I messed up, I will work on making things right and not dwell on it. I am no longer going to listen to the voice that says I am screwing up my kids ;) 

I want to encourage you to do the same!!!!

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Children are a gift from God

Recently, I had the privilege to attend a Comfort Care dessert fundraiser. Comfort Care is our local pregnancy resource center. I have visited the center before, but this was the first fundraiser that we have ever attended. I was not sure what to expect other than they would ask us for

They had a couple of people speak and one woman give her testimony.
I was in tears numerous times throughout the evening. First, was during the testimony of a woman who chose life for her baby. She stood up there and told everyone how she was scared. How the baby's father wanted her to have an abortion. How although she grew up being pro-life she just didn't know what to do.

She decided to go to Comfort Care to discuss her different options. She said that while she was there she never felt judged and felt like they really cared. After talking to the counselor she was taken back to have an ultrasound done where she saw the baby's heartbeat for the first time. Thanks to the counseling and ultrasound she decided to keep her baby!! Even if the road ahead of her might be hard and not what she had planned. She chose life!

Fast forward to today, she is the mother of a beautiful little girl who is about 3 weeks older than Wyatt. And I can tell you from seeing her with that sweet little baby that she does not regret her decision to choose life.

There was another pro-life speaker there who gave some statistics that also had me in tears that evening.
We live in a little town, the population of our whole county is only around 20,000. So the statistics he spoke of were from two nearby bigger cities that most of us travel to, Roanoke and Charlottesville. He said each city had 1000 abortions preformed, so 2000 between the 2 cities. That equals 5 babies killed every single day of the year, just in those 2 cities alone.

My heart broke when I heard that! I am very pro-life and to hear that people are able to kill another person like that just blows my mind. I don't care what any pro-choice person says, IT IS A BABY!! Like the girl in the testimony said, she saw it's heartbeat! I think she said she was only like 7 or 8 weeks along. It had a heartbeat because IT IS A BABY!

I have been pregnant 7 times and I can't fathom how someone can say that it is not a baby. I have felt them move. I have seen them on the ultrasound sucking their hand and moving their arms and legs around. I have been kept awake at night because when I want to sleep seems to be the perfect time for him/her to get a case of the hiccups. It does not have to be outside of the body in order for it to be a baby! Life begins at conception.

I hear the argument that a woman should have the right to choose what she does to her body. Well, the thing is, it is not her body. She is not killing herself. She is not stopping her heartbeat. She is not snapping her own neck. She is doing it to someone else. If she didn't want a baby then she shouldn't have opened her legs. Yes, that is how I see it. If you are going to make the decision to have sex, then you know that there is a chance that you might get pregnant.

What about a woman who is raped, that was not her choice, That is the argument most pro-choice people make. You are 100% right, it was not their choice and I know from experience that is something horrible to go through! But is murdering another human being really the answer?

Here is another statistic that was thrown out that night, 60% of all people who get an abortion already have a child/children! They are not young scared teenagers or rape victims. They are adults who know exactly what they are doing.

So why are they doing it?

Because they are selfish, that's why. That little baby didn't fit into their plan. That little baby didn't get to live because mom and dad only had a couple of more years until all of their kids were out of the house and they didn't want to start all over again. He or she didn't get to live because dad was saving up money for a boat and a baby would ruin his plans and take away his money. That sweet perfect baby didn't get to live because mom and dad thought that their house was too small to have another baby.

What ever the reason is, it is a selfish reason. Mom and dad saw their lives going one way and having a baby would ruin their plans.

Here is the thing though...... Life isn't all about you. We live in a society where we are selfish and everything is me, me, me. What can I get out of it? How will this benefit me? When people see a baby as a way of ruining the plans that they have set out, they just dispose of it.

It makes me sick.

A baby is not something that should just be disposed of. That little baby did nothing to deserve being murdered. It didn't ask for you to become pregnant, but it should have just as much right to live as you do!

I am so glad that we went to the fundraiser. Although the statistics and some things that were said broke my heart, there were statistics of women who choose life that made my heart happy! I am glad to see that the center is helping and giving women information to help them choose life. Every woman who walks through their doors is cared for and loved, not judged. Every woman that they help inform and support is one more sweet little baby that has a chance to live. So this family will help them in whatever way we can because EVERY BABY MATTERS!!!!

I encourage you, if you are pro-life to please support your local pregnancy resource center!!! Support them financially if you can or give your time and volunteer. Helping support them by giving women a choice is what is going to put abortion clinics out of business.




A BABY!!!!!