I was told the other day by someone that they were shocked that I would choose to make my husband's sins public knowledge. Apparently, by speaking the truth in this blog about problems that my husband and OUR marriage have faced, that I am hurting my husband (and his family). I am choosing not to protect him from other people judging him.
I am not 100% sure what this person was referring to exactly. I have written a blog about his past porn addiction and my most recent blog stated a couple of other things like drugs/alcohol.
I would like to state VERY CLEARLY that anything I write in this blog my wonderful husband
is perfectly fine with me posting. He is not ashamed of his past and neither am I. It is called a TESTIMONY! Michael has come so far in his life. He has overcome things that people in his life before me wanted nothing to do with him because of it.
I am not embarrassed by his actions. I only have control over myself and my actions. Why should I or anyone else in his life be embarrassed over his past actions? I nor they had any control over what he chose to do with his time and his life.
When I blogged about his porn addiction I was shocked at how many people messaged me and thanked me for not being afraid to speak out about it. Again, statistics show that out of every 10 of my friends 6-7 of them have a husband who has dealt with porn issues. That is why I chose to write about it, because I want other women to know that they are not alone and that there are other women suffering through the same pain. It is ok to talk about. It is ok to support each other and offer help! Our husbands are not bad people, they just need strength to get though an addiction. Pretending like it isn't going on, isn't going to make it go away!
In my last blog I chose to state things about all of the hell that Michael put me through in the first couple of years of our marriage. Why? Not to hurt him and not to make him out be a horrible husband. I put it in there to give other marriages hope. To help people out there know that even though they may feel like their marriage is over, that they are going through things that they think they can never get past, it is possible.
If you look at some of my past posts or if you have been around Michael and I in person for more than 10 min then you know how much I love and adore him! He is an extraordinary man and I thank God everyday for bringing him into my life! I think that God allowed us to go through some things because He has a purpose for our lives. Michael and I have something huge in the works that I will share with all of you in my next blog.
I write this blog to share about my life and the things that go on in it. The good, the bad and the ugly. I am a real person who lives a real life with other imperfect people. If you don't like it, then don't read it. I am not going to stop helping others know that they are not alone. I am not going to pretend like I live a perfect life that nothing bad happens in. The fact is that I don't.
I don't think that I am hurting my husband or family by stating the truth. I ALWAYS put my family first and I ALWAYS protect them. I may briefly touch on struggles that we have, but I do not go into all out detail, nor do I bash my family and belittle them on here.
No one on this planet loves and protects my husband and children more than I do! No one!
Thank you Leslie for your upfront honesty...and YES you are absolutely right when you said posting about your marital issues may help someone going through the same or similar circumstance. Your blog blessed me, knowing I am not the only person who has had to deal with issues either created by myself or my husband. Marriage isn't easy, it can be a struggle, but it is testimonies like yours that make it easier. I haven't known you & Michael long, but I am glad we met...it is obvious you adore one another and your children! Thank you!
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